Every so often, a New York man settles a divorce, including child custody and child support issues. More than once during proceedings, he was dragged back into court in order to settle a dispute. After working with professionals and exploring all options, he is still not able to see his children.

Situations like this could happen to divorced parents and parents going through divorce. When one parent tries to keep the child to himself or herself, it puts a strain on an already imperfect relationship. It not only hurts the parent that is not allowed to see the child, but it traumatizes the children as well.

If your relationship with your children has been damaged by a difficult custody battle, you may be able to repair that relationship. The following tips can assist in repairing a relationship, but take into consideration the age of the children.

  • Play with Your Children: No matter the age of the child, a child likes to play. A younger child may like to play with Legos and color. An older child may like to play video games. When your children visit you, spend some time with them doing activities they enjoy.
  • Participate in Activities: If your children are involved in extra-curricular activities at school, attend their games and performances. If your children enjoy hiking, camping or theme parks or they just like to go out to eat and catch a movie, arrange to do these activities when your children visit you.

Spending time with your child will lead to conversation. Allow your children to express their feelings. Learn to help them identify problems and solve conflicts. You may find that rift getting smaller and smaller with each time you spend time with your children.

Above all, it's important to demonstrate that you love and support your children. Showing affection will help them get through the divorce process. It is healthy for children to have a solid relationship with both of their parents. Not only will working to heal your relationship with your children be beneficial to them, it will also help you move into the next phase of your life.

Source: Huffington Post, "Don't Divorce Your Kids," Nancy Fagan, Feb. 2, 2012